Wednesday, March 26, 2008

Domestic Diva? I think not!

So I have been thinking about this a lot lately and decided I was going to voice my thoughts! Have you ever noticed how there are some people that manage to have everything together all the time?! Their kids look perfect, THEY look perfect, their house looks perfect, their yard, their vehicles....homemade meals all the time, little crafts around every corner and their husband and kids adore them without restrain?! Honestly! I am lucky to have 3 of those things going for me at once! If my house is clean....I look like a complete wreck and we're having take out! I serve left overs, take-out, tasty little dinners from a box and when my family is really lucky I splurge for a full spread homemade meal (which never turns out as good as I hope)! Some days I wish I was skinnier, prettier, smarter or more creative! It's very likely that something in my house could use a good cleaning most days! So how do you women do it? I have obviously missed out on some homemaking classes! As hard as I strive for that perfect little world, it is nowhere to be found and I find myself entirely defeated at the end of most days! I love my husband and I love my little man but I am no superwoman! Can anyone really have the perfect lives they appear to? For self-soothing reasons I tell myself NO they cannot! Yet how do they make it so convincing that I shrink in their presence and at the thought of their amazing feats?
So as this has been bothering me for weeks now, I have come up with a solution! I am going to embrace my imperfections! Every single one of them! The little messes on my floor that needs mopped, the dust I know is collecting on the top of my cabinets, my messy hair, messy shirts, my grubby little boy who just wants to run around in his diaper, my dusty blinds and dirty windows...all of it! I like to think that I'm a clean person and there is room for some imperfection! Of course I will get to all these things eventually, but in the mean time I'm not going to start going gray because I can't do it all in one day! My home will never be up to Mary Poppin standards so don't bother bringing the white glove over with you! You will surely find dust somewhere! But one thing is for sure, I will always do my best to have a happy home! Admittedly I don't wake up with a cheery disposition every morning....some days I am a grumpy pain in the butt! But I will do my best! I think that this new realization should help in that area! Just maybe if I am not constantly reaching for some perfect life that is glorified by t.v. shows and those crafty little magazines....I will not always find myself falling short of my own expectations. That my friends can make for one sad little lady!
So the cat is out of the bag! I don't have it all together! I am not SuperMom or SuperWife! No cuisine meals will probably ever be served out of my kitchen! I will never win any prizes for my homemaking skills period! Sometimes I will drive my family crazy and I'm sure they will return the favor! But I will always try my best to be a good person, a supportive and loving wife, a nurturing mother and a friend you can depend on. So if you see me one day and I look like I haven't showered yet (it's very possible) or my mind is somewhere, miles away from the rest of my body....just cut me a little slack and I will do the same for you if ever necessary. I am finally getting it! What a silly thing to expect of myself (or anyone)...perfection! Hah!
So this is for all of you who can relate with me. I know there has to be at least a few! You can always try to do better where you see need for improvement but don't be too hard on yourself because somebody down the street seems to really have you beat in the life department. Just love yourself and your imperfections, and love your family and THEIR imperfections and maybe you'll see things in the right perspective! Wouldn't that be great...if we could all be happy without having to wear ourselves to the bone for it? I think yes!
So I think that pretty much covers my thoughts for the past couple of weeks! It feels so good to get that out!

7 comments:

Fullerton Family said...

Well, that post just made my day! Honestly, I don't think ANYONE has it ALL together, because you just proved that to me! To me you look like you ARE a superwife and mom, I'm glad to know that you do have your off days, too! Love ya!

Ken Holladay said...

So, I was thinking that YOU were that person who has a perfect house and looks perfect....I don't see you much but the times I have that's what I have gathered. So I'm not even remotely close to being on the ball, and I don't even have a baby yet! I can't imagine what a wreck I will be, but I'm glad that you feel the same way, so maybe I will look better to others than I do to myself. Thanks for sharing, I love it!

Nathan and Toni Southam said...

I agree with the other two! When I look at my messy house I think, "wow, how does Ashley do it"? Anyways, it was soooo good to see you! You look just as beautiful as ever and Gage is just the sweetest little boy in the world! So cute! My mom is completely in love with him now and I think she only saw him for like 2 seconds! Speaking of which, I don't remember if I told you but she has a blog now and it's dlperkins.blogspot.com so yeah! Check it out! It's mostly Grant anyways! Love ya tons!

Kathi & Ronnie Bishop said...

AMEN!

Blain&Deedra said...

I just always remember when I go to someones house and it is perfect and there is good food, that they were planning for me to come. And when I plan for someone to come, you better believe my house is clean, but the rest of the time you are bound to find at least one but usually two, as my life goes, diapers laying, rolled up and ready to throw away, on the floor and most nights Blain does the cooking. But I am supermom in my own mind, I just try and out do myself, it's the best way to live.

THE CAVEY CLAN said...

I LOVE IT ASH, I used to think everybody had it all together BUT ME especially reading everyone elses blogs. After talking to many of them, I realize they have THE SAME struggels as me and maybe even more:)! The truth is EVERYONE is lacking in at least one area, some just aren't willing to admit as easy (I think I am one of a few who has imperfection written all over me and my blog:)! I have realized NOT to compare myself to others and do what I CAN do and I am sooo much happier! Nice to hear you aren't perfect though:)!

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